So friendship is an integral part of life, which will make one ask questions when he doesn't have at least one or two real ones. When we grow up, it is normal to lose friends due to the fact that mentalities and believe system change, distance can separate friends and people get to choose between you and many other newer friends they meet. But friends that grow up and become successful are what we count as connections and of course they can help us reach greater heights by recommending jobs and beneficial offers.
Obviously, in the world today, the social connections are often measured by quantity of friends or followers on social media (which can be bought or lured with giveaways), this makes the quality of relationship to take the back seat which then creates many unhealthy and unfruitful friendships. Having just a few friends that can be beneficial in terms of knowledge, social etc is highly preferred and recommend than many followers or friends that are less fulfilling.
Friends are golden, endeavor to experience true once. We will look at the reasons while having few real friends is better than have over a million online follower's or friends. This does not mean that online friends or followers cannot be helpful but generally quality decreases with quantity.
Reasons why Fewer Friends are more Fulfilling
Deeper Connection
Having fewer friends gives room for deeper and meaningful connection. There is this Igbo adage that says that "A good friend is better than brothers if there is no quarrel" which refers to the strong bond that exists between friends. The age difference between brothers can linger friendly relationship because the elder one may demand respect from the younger brother. But in friendship, age is not considered which makes them freely relate.
Less Drama
Larger group of friends comes with more complexity and tendency for drama unlike a few friends. When you keep a smaller group of friends, you reduce the likelihood of conflicts and misunderstandings, leading to a more peaceful and enjoyable social life.
Time and Energy
The most important currency being invested in friendship is time and energy. When you have a few of them, you tend to invest quality time and energy ensuring that you are present and available for the people who matter most to you. It is also important to know that it is the quality time you guys spend together that leads to deeper connection friends enjoy.
Trust
It is harder to trust a larger group of friends than just few. Trust is an important virtue in every relationship, and fewer friends allows you to be more selective about who you trust with your thoughts, feelings, and personal experiences, creating a stronger foundation for those relationships.
Believe System
You will stick with people having similar believe system when you make up your mind to have fewer friends. Which can lead to more harmonious and fulfilling relationship.
Minimal Betrayal
Betrayal from a close one hurts more than anything, and the fear of betrayal is the reason people tend not to go into relationships. But having a small group of friends you can share your confidential information tends to reduce the risk of betrayal.
Steps Towards Achieving Healthy Friendship
Quality over quantity holds true when it comes to friendships, as a few meaningful connections often outweigh the drawbacks of having plenty of friends. below are some of the practical steps to achieve a healthy friendships.
Be Genuine
The first step in achieving a healthy friendships is actually giving what you expect. So if you want to have genius friends, you first have to be genuine to others. No wonder the Golden rule says you should do to others what you want them to do to yo.
Forgive
"To err is human but to forgive is devine". You should be ready to forgive mistakes as no one is perfect. But always know that walking away or calling a friendship off is necessary when they repeatedly and intensionally hurt.
Celebrate Success
Celebrating each other's success is an important aspect of friendship, which will gives the sense of belonging and value. When you are genuinely happy for your friends' achievements and milestones, celebrating successes together strengthens the bond.
Give and Take
Balance is crucial when it comes to investing or giving in a friendship. A healthy friendships/relationship involves giving and taking.
Good Communication
Communication is key in any friendship, and no friendships/relationship ever survived without communication. Proper and honest communication leads to understanding, which addresses conflicts calmly and show feelings openly to strengthen your bond.
Reliability/ Integrity
Always keep to your words and be someone others can count on. It is better not to promise than to know you cannot deliver and yet you go ahead to promise, maybe to make them feel good. Also a healthy friendships is one that even in the absence of the other ones, their image are still protected.
Respect one Another
Respect is reciprocal, treating your friends with respect will definitely bring you respect in return. A respectful friendship is a healthy friendship and it cuts across people's thoughts and feelings.
Conclusion
The quality of friendships often outweighs the quantity. While having a vast network of acquaintances may seem impressive on the surface, the depth and richness of true friendships are found in the intimacy and understanding that comes with keeping a smaller, more carefully chosen circle of friends than can improve you on daily basis.