Introversion is one of the four common temperament usually possessed by humans. Out of all the four, introverts seems to be harder to work or associate with. This is because they tend to focus more on their internal energy, experience, thoughts and feelings than the external feeling. As a matter of fact, they are more internally motivation, guarded than extroverts.
Why shyness and socially anxious may be common among many of them, others actually prefer to spend time alone. Introverts are so powerful because they tend to remain resilient and calm under pressure. It has become general knowledge that introverts are not good at making or keeping friendships. This is because they are know to be shy and they also find it difficult cut start up conversations.
In this article, we have carefully outlined ways you can get alone with introverts and enjoy your friendship or relationship with them. Because they are actually truthful when it comes to relationship.
Steps to Effectively Relate with Introverts
Respect their Space
Introverts always need some time alone to recharge and replenish, this doesn't signify rejection but simply some quite time alone. Respecting this crucial moment in their life gets you closer to them, so learn to give them that few minutes and watch as you get closer to their heart.
Start with Casual Talks
Asking deep or personal questions from introverts at the start of conversation may appear overwhelming and scary to them. Always try to start with casual questions such as getting to know how their day is going etc. You can then progress gradually to more profound and deeper discussion as you build rapport.
Give them Listening Ears
Just like women, all introverts loves it when you listen as they speak. This enables them to express themselves without any interruption. Also show genuine interest in what they say as this helps to create a comfortable environment for them to express themselves.
Choose Quiet Settings
When you plan to take introverts out, be it male or female, always try to host them in a quiet environment unlike noisy places. This is because they easily read meaning into sounds and talks that ordinary people may not pay attention to.
So if you want to get their focus when having a conversation, try to make the environment quiet, so as to reduce external stimulus on them.
Give them time to Respond
Introverts don't just respond to questions or speak back quickly, they always time a little time to process and carefully chose they words. So be patient and allow them take their time to respond without pressuring them. This also helps them feel relaxed and welcomed.
Celebrate their Strength
Celebrating their strength is really what brings introverts out of their shells and shy life. Introverts often possess qualities such as empathy, deep reflection, creative thinking etc. Acknowledging this uniqueness and encouraging them helps them utilize and be more open to you.
Be Mindful of Social Events
Because introverts are shy, they may find it difficult to party and socialize in a crowded places. Although they still enjoy social events, but they don't enjoy lengthy talks that always happens in parties. Also try not to pressure them to get along as they always have to protect the little flame of their sanity against the imposition of the socializing crowd.
Find Common Interests
Try to focus on things you guys share in common because introverts tend to flourish more in one-on-one or small group discussion centered around common passions. So discover your shared hobbies, passions and engage them.
Surprise them
Everyone loves surprises including introverts, no matter how little the surprise package may be. You don't need to spend so much to throw them a surprise party as this will only increase their anxiety level because of crowd. Remember they don't like crowd, so just get them books, food and little things with value.
Don't be Needy Around them
Introverts tend to behave like cats, as their anxiety level increases when they are needed. Needy partners or friends appear to be threat to their independence, because they always want to wander and ponder. Always act as if you have your own hobbies and passions even without them filling in for any spots.
Conclusion
To get an introvert to fall in love with you or to relate effectively with them is not really as difficult as people think. You only need patience and a good understanding of how introverts work to be able to work with them.
Remember everybody is unique and introversion is just one aspect of ones uniqueness. When you respect boundaries or practice the above discussed techniques, you can be sure of building a strong and fulfilling relationship with introverts.